You Mainly Feel The Way

Life Is Indeed Difficult, Partly Because Of The Real Difficulties We Must Overcome In Order To Survive, And Partly Because Of Our Own Innate Desire To Always Do Better, To Overcome New Challenges, To Self-actualize. Happiness Is Experienced Largely In Striving Towards A Goal, Not In Having Attained Things, Because Our Nature Is Always To Want To Go On To The Next Endeavor.

It Is Only In Your Mind That You Have To Excel, At Anything Or Everything. Of Course, It Would Be Very Nice To Excel At Most Things. Indeed, We Recommend That You Try And Do Your Best. But Realistically, You Are Entitled To Do The Bare Minimum To Get By. All Your Accomplishments Are Just A Bonus, Something To Enjoy, Not Requirements. You Don't Have To Do Anything To Prove That You Are Worthy Of Existing.

I'm Very Happy. I Like My Work And I Like The Various Aspects Of It - Going Around The World, Teaching The Gospel According To St. Albert - I Like That. And Seeing Clients, Doing Group Therapy, Writing Books.

I Started To Call Myself A Rational Therapist In 1955; Later I Used The Term Rational Emotive. Now I Call Myself A Rational Emotive Behavior Therapist.

Let's Suppose Somebody Abused You Sexually. You Still Had A Choice, Though Not A Good One, About What To Tell Yourself About The Abuse.