You Gotta Keep That In

I Have Never Known A Patient To Portray His Parents More Negatively Than He Actually Experienced Them In Childhood But Always More Positively--because Idealization Of His Parents Was Essential For His Survival.

People Who, As Children, Were Intellectually Far Beyond Their Parents And Therefore Admired By Them, But Who Also Therefore Had To Solve Their Own Problems Alone. These People, Who Give Us A Feeling Of Their Intellectual Strength And Will Power, Also Seem To Demand That We, Too, Ought To Fight Off Any Feeling Of Weakness With Intellectual Means. In Their Presence One Feels One Cannot Be Recognized As A Person With Problems Just As They And Their Problems Were Unrecognized By Their Parents, For Whom He Always Had To Be Strong.

The Commandment To Refrain From Placing Blame On Our Parents, Deeply Imprinted In Us By Our Upbringing, Skillfully Performs The Function Of Hiding Essential Truths From Us.

People Whose Integrity Has Not Been Damaged In Childhood, Who Were Protected, Respected, And Treated With Honesty By Their Parents, Will Be-both In Their Youth And In Adulthood-intelligent, Responsive, Empathic, And Highly Sensitive. They Will Take Pleasure In Life And Will Not Feel Any Need To Kill Or Even Hurt Others Or Themselves. They Will Use Their Power To Defend Themselves, Not To Attack Others. They Will Not Be Able To Do Otherwise Than Respect And Protect Those Weaker Than Themselves, Including Their Children, Because This Is What They Have Learned From Their Own Experience.

The Father Receives His Power From God (and From His Own Father). The Teacher Finds The Soil Already Prepared For Obedience, And The Political Leader Has Only To Harvest What Has Been Sown.