When We Focus On Others,

Daydreaming Defeats Practice; Those Of Us Who Browse Tv While Working Out Will Never Reach The Top Ranks. Paying Full Attention Seems To Boost The Mind's Processing Speed, Strengthen Synaptic Connections, And Expand Or Create Neural Networks For What We Are Practicing.

Self-absorption In All Its Forms Kills Empathy, Let Alone Compassion. When We Focus On Ourselves, Our World Contracts As Our Problems And Preoccupations Loom Large. But When We Focus On Others, Our World Expands. Our Own Problems Drift To The Periphery Of The Mind And So Seem Smaller, And We Increase Our Capacity For Connection - Or Compassionate Action.

One Aspect Of A Successful Relationship Is Not Just How Compatible You Are, But How You Deal With Your Incompatibility.

Research Shows That For Jobs Of All Kinds, Emotional Intelligence Is Twice As Important An Ingredient Of Outstanding Performance As Cognitive Ability And Technical Skill Combined.

When I Went On To Write My Next Book, Working With Emotional Intelligence, I Wanted To Make A Business Case That The Best Performers Were Those People Strong In These Skills.