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After My Husband, Dave, Died, I Called My Friend Adam, A Psychologist Who Studies How People Find Meaning In Our Lives, And I Asked Him What, If Anything, I Could Do To Help Myself And My Kids Get Through This. We Started Talking About Resilience, Then Reading About It, Then Talking To Other People Who Had Gotten Through Grief And Other Huge Challenges. In Time, Those Conversations And That Research Helped Me Heal.

The More Women Help One Another, The More We Help Ourselves. Acting Like A Coalition Truly Does Produce Results. Any Coalition Of Support Must Also Include Men, Many Of Whom Care About Gender Inequality As Much As Women Do.

Let's Acknowledge That Men Reach For Opportunities More Quickly And More Easily Than Women. So Often As Managers, We Give The Job To Whoever Starts Solving The Problem, To Whoever Jumps In. Since We Know Men Will Jump In Faster Than Women In So Many Circumstances, We Have To Slow Down And Encourage More Women To Sit At More Tables.

I Think Now Is Our Time. My Mother Was Told By Everyone That She Had Two Choices: She Could Be A Nurse Or A Teacher. The External Barriers Now Are Just So Much Lower. If We Start Acknowledging What The Real Issues Are, We Can Solve Them. It's Not That Hard.

The Reason I Wrote Lean In Is I Think People Weren't Actually Noticing That We Had Stopped Making Progress. I Gave A Ted Talk And Said: "it Turns Out Men Still Run The World." And The Audience Gasped As If That Was News.