I Am Not A Redhead,

I Understand That If I Really Need My Hair To Be Nice, Now I Hire Someone To Do It, And I Understand That Putting On A Pair Of Heels Really Makes A Difference.

I Understood More What Nancy Reagan And Ronald Reagan, What They Were Coming From. Kind Of The Horrors Of Their Childhoods That They Were Coming From. When You Experience Such Pain Early On, Some People Really Interface With That Pain And Try And Unpack It, And Some People Just Take It And Squelch It Down And Try And Be As Successful As They Can. And, You Know, Encourage Everybody, "don't Dwell On The Negative! Come On, Buck Up!"

I Also Grew To Love Nancy Reagan In A Certain Way. I Learned More - Certainly I Learned More Bad Stuff That I Had Known About In Greater Detail, But I Also Got A Lot Of Empathy.

And For Me, It Is A Choice. I Understand That For Many People Its Not, But For Me Its A Choice, And You Dont Get To Define My Gayness For Me. A Certain Section Of Our Community Is Very Concerned That It Not Be Seen As A Choice, Because If Its A Choice, Then We Could Opt Out. I Say It Doesnt Matter If We Flew Here Or We Swam Here, It Matters That We Are Here And We Are One Group And Let Us Stop Trying To Make A Litmus Test For Who Is Considered Gay And Who Is Not.

Now I Have A Third Must-do On My List Of Things To Do With Cancer, And It's This: Follow Your Gut, Ask Questions, Don't Be Complacent.