Emotional Access To The Truth

The Child Has A Primary Need To Be Regarded And Respected As The Person He Really Is At Any Given Time, And As The Center - The Central Actor - In His Own Activity.

People Whose Integrity Has Not Been Damaged In Childhood, Who Were Protected, Respected, And Treated With Honesty By Their Parents, Will Be-both In Their Youth And In Adulthood-intelligent, Responsive, Empathic, And Highly Sensitive. They Will Take Pleasure In Life And Will Not Feel Any Need To Kill Or Even Hurt Others Or Themselves. They Will Use Their Power To Defend Themselves, Not To Attack Others. They Will Not Be Able To Do Otherwise Than Respect And Protect Those Weaker Than Themselves, Including Their Children, Because This Is What They Have Learned From Their Own Experience.

That Probably Greatest Of Narcissistic Wounds -- Not To Have Been Loved Just As One Truly Was -- Cannot Heal Without The Work Of Mourning.

One Can Only Remember What Has Been Consciously Experienced.

Anyone Who Has Ever Been A Mother Or Father And Is At All Honest Knows From Experience How Difficult It Can Be For Parents To Accept Certain Aspects Of Their Children. It Is Especially Painful To Have To Admit This If We Really Love Our Child And Want To Respect His Or Her Individuality Yet Are Unable To Do So.